I have met many people this week who are striving to be the perfect partner, a hard worker, an amazing mum/dad, have a clean house, be amazingly fit, prepare healthy food, look after older parents and look stunning all at once. No wonder stress levels are running high. How can we expect to be good at all of these, all at the same time?
I’ve heard the analogy that life is like a juggling act trying to keep all the balls moving. It seems the ball that gets dropped and discarded first is the ‘looking after ourselves’ one. I mean how many times do you hear people say ‘you need to take some time to relax and look after yourself’. The response includes a polite smile and the thought ‘and I have time for that when?’. In the onslaught of battle against everyday expectations this warrior cant just sit there and paint her nails.
I get the point though, if the juggler falls off balance then all the balls are going to drop. So I decided to try out a new method. Instead of finding extra time to do nice things, I tried loosening the reigns just a little bit. After a hard day/week the default would be skipping the exercise class, getting takeaway and sitting on the couch. Although this seems to feel good at the time, the guilt trip after for not ‘looking after yourself’ doesn’t seem worth it. So how about taking the middle ground instead! Can’t be bothered with the gym? Go for a light walk instead. Can’t be bothered cooking? Get a premade salad and cooked chook instead. Too tired to attend that get together? Just go for an hour or arrange a quiet coffee date for another time instead.
I have found this way I am not opting out completely and still get a bit of everything in the day. It is just as important to be mindful of how you are feeling and find a compromise between what needs to be done. Show your self some kindness for how hard it is to juggle all the balls. And you never know, loosening the reigns on a couple of things every now and then might just give you the time to paint those nails.
What is listening?
Listening is detecting sounds through the ear, the brain organizing the sound and combining it with information from all our other senses. Listening includes:
What is Therapeutic Listening?
Therapeutic Listening is a structured program using specifically composed music to develop a person’s ability to tune into and respond to their world. Here are some of the aspects found in the music:
If you missed the February Newsletter or want rediscover what resources were shared, please find it here; Calm and Connected February Newsletter